MY PHILOSOPHY FOR A HAPPY LIFE

Hello Lovelies, how are we all doing, been a minute. I know I’ve been quiet here on the blog, I wouldn’t say absent because I still check up on other blogs and read comments on here. Reason I’ve been quiet, well I’m in a different environment and prior to moving accidentally my laptop had some fault beyond repair 😢 So, posting content is a lot more stressful right now and I’m just trying to wing it until I’m blessed with a new laptop. That being said there would be only one post every week for the main time. I don’t want to type much on this post but I’d keep updating as I post. Anyway, lets dive into today’s post, but before we do that, how do you love my new look ?
Today’s post is about my philosophy to having a happy life, especially us in our early to late twenties, being an adult is just tasking. The pressure to be independent, married, get that job, bills associated with living (rent, electricity etc) Also, at this age frame we go through a lot privately or publicly, whether is going through pain, loss, misfortune or adversity, and there’s something about going through something that doesn’t seem fair to you, that once you go through them you need to make sense of it since you can’t change what happened and you can’t alter what you’ve been through. Life can get frustrating and get to you if you allow it to. Sometimes things don’t go as planned; you are met with disappointments, failures, setbacks and delays. Its life, but how can you overcome it and choose happiness over it all, keep reading, down below is my philosophy for a happy life.

Talk to you in my next post, be you, be safe, be kind, stay blessed and remain humble..
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MY PHILOSOPHY FOR A HAPPY LIFE
1. First admit what it is that you are feeling to yourself and/or someone you care about and also in return cares about you, voicing out what it is gives you power over it.
2. In order to facilitate the process to feeling better, do what will bring you peace,  writing, crying, finding humor in the situation, whatever is safe and healthy that brings you ease.
3. Destroy the thought of comparison, you don’t have to be at the same level everyone else is at, you are at the pace and position you are at in this life because you are meant to be there. You should never let what is around you make you feel less of the person you are becoming.

4. Anything that has happened in the past or present beyond your control just let it go, trust me there’s so much peace in moving forward. Letting things go frees you up so you can move forward.
5. Never do people how they do you, it can block your blessings, just hand them over to God and focus on yourself.
6. This right here is really imperative, especially to my young ladies, do not make the mistake of being dependent on anyone, work harder to give yourself what it is you desire in this life no matter how slow the process might be , just keep pushing and don’t forget to put God first.
7. Whatever good you do for anyone never expect anything in return because sometimes nothing is what they can offer. Expectations lead to disappointments. 

8. Try your best to shift yourself from negativity, once you start getting negative thoughts into you it can destroy you physically, emotionally and mentally.
9. Realize what is meant for you will not pass you by as long as you keep putting the work, so whatever set back, rejection or disappointment (job, relationship, opportunity and so on) you’ve been met with wasn’t just for you.
10.  Don’t take life too seriously, live in the moment, find humor in awkward situations, be thankful for the little things, love more when it is being reciprocated.
11.  Never speak bad about yourself, because only you on earth have the power over your well being.

12. Recognize when a job, phase, life stage or relationship is over and let it go. Allow yourself to gracefully exit situations you’ve outgrown.
13. Forgive yourself for accepting less than you deserve, but don’t do it again.
Just have this at the back of your head, that God will not allow a trial to come into your life unless he has a purpose. He doesn’t just allow the storm, he uses them, and also realize that God knows your strengths and weaknesses. So whatever you are going through he trust you can handle it. I hope this post help someone out there. 
Thanks for reading, I  Don’t even  know what the next post might be about, but like I mentioned earlier I’m just winging it.
Do enjoy the rest of your week

QOTD "Be kind to yourself."
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  1. I couldn't agree more with your sentiments in this post. Dying over this cool athleisure look!

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  2. I love this post and your outfit is amazing too!

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  3. I really like this combo. This white sweatshirt looks great paired with that lovely skirt. You look stunning.
    I enjoyed reading your tips for a happier life. I think they work well for any age, but we should especially keep them in mind as young(er) adults. Focusing too much on what people think or do is never good. We shouldn't be revengeful and try to get back to those who didn't treat us right. It is much better, as to say, to hand others to God and pay attention to our own actions. When we put God first, everything else falls into place.

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  4. Such a great post! I agree comparison is a thief of joy! And you look lovely, Benita!
    xoxo, Vanessa
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  5. Beautiful outfit dear, I love the bag!!

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  6. Your philosophy sounds great! You look fab Benita!
    Kisses, Paola.

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  7. Everyone has his '' must '' to be happy (I would like to travel for more, for example) but many of your points are shareable :)
    A hug for you my dear... nice post!
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  8. Such a fun look! Love those sunglasses!

    Have a great Thursday!
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  9. Love this post, so much great advice here that I need to reread every week haha. My sister always says grow through what you go through. Change is painful but necessary most of the time. My Dad also taught me not to depend anyone and I think that is such an important point! Love the message in your post, also you look phenomenal! Beautiful photos xxx

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    1. I 100% agree with your sister and Dad. Thanks for sharing.

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  10. Such an inspiration and I love your outfit! :)
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  11. Ah, your style is so cute Benita.
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  12. That skirt is so cute, I love it with that bag
    xo
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  13. Other thing that I like the most about your blog is not just about your amazing style (especially your new hair), but also your positive vibe. Keep writing and inspiring, love! God bless you !

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    1. Awww thank you so much chelshea dear and thanks for stopping by.

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  14. Couldn't agree more with your thoughts on how to live more happily! I especially agree on not comparing yourself to other people - that will get you absolutely nowhere and can only bring you more harm than well. ;)


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  15. Great post!
    Your philosophy, your smile, and beautiful colors outfit make me happy!
    Have a lovely weekend <3

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  16. Nice post Benita- Outfit is adorable and your thoughts are really ispirational.
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  17. I've always felt like happiness is a mindset so I agree with everything you say 100%

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  18. Such a great post! I agree with you on "never to speak bad about yourself". It is so very true and you look gorge, babe!
    Happy Monday, babe!
    xoxo, Vanessa
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  19. Compare to motivation, not depression, I always say. Great post here and couldn't agree more. Great casual outfit.

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  20. These are really good philosophy in life. Also, very cute look :)

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  21. your posts are always super interesting and inspiring! :)

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  22. Super cool look! Love those sunnies!
    xo, Jane
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  23. Beautifully written! Thanks for sharing dear. Have a great day, and stay fab as always!

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  24. Thanks a lot :D

    super cool content my dear :)
    you look fantastic!

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  25. Love the list you created! God bless you, girly. :)

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  26. Gres post and outfit. Have a great day
    XX

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  27. Welcome back and beautifully written :) xx

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  28. Ah, this was such an insightful and inspiring read! While I agree with every point, 3 & 6 are my persona favourites. I could not agree more! You look great by the way xx

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    1. I'm glad you find this useful, 6 is my favorite as well. Thanks for stopping by.

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  29. Great post. I really enjoy reading it. You have amazing tips for happy life and I completely agree with you. Thank you for sharing.

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  30. I totally agree with you . As for the outfit, you look so lovely in the white top and blue skirt.

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  31. You look divine dear, love everything about this post and the words you've shared.

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  32. Your hair is fab and I love the colors of your outfit!!!And yes, we must live and cherish every moment and not always expect big things, even little moments are happy moments!! x

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  33. This outfit looks so beautiful! x

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  34. Oh, Bernie, sometimes I want to press snooze on this adulthood business and stay in bed forever. Love your tips for a positive mindset and making the best of everything that life throws at us. Loving that skirt paired with the sneakers as well!
    Xx

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    1. Me too dear, the feeling is mutual, but we have to do what we need to do. Thanks for stopping by.

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  35. Very lovely look. So sorry about your laptop. That happened to me a while ago and it was quite annoying.

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    1. Its okay, I hope to get another one soon, thanks for stopping by.

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  36. Such a fun casual outfit! I like the adorable bag! Sorry to hear about your laptop though, I hope you can get another one!

    Hope that you are having a nice week and a lovely weekend ahead of you :)

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    1. I hope so too dear, thanks for stopping by.

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  37. Love this look

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  38. You are so wise, Bernie! Loved every bit of this post. I hope you get a laptop soon because I want to see more of your outfits!

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    1. I hope so too Quinn, thanks for stopping by dear.

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  39. I love this colorful skirt !
    xx
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  40. Such a fab philosophy! Love your look!
    ~Samantha
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  41. I'm loving your new look!
    You really look amazing.. and happy :)
    Your philosophy is spot on.
    You've mentioned things we are supposed to know but we really don't apply in life..
    We should do it more often
    Thank you for reminding us how grateful we should be for our lives and how to live it better.

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    1. My pleasure Thomas, I'm glad you can relate to it.

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  42. You're so right with every point you made. I especially liked the one that "expectations lead to disappointment" because it's so so true.

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  43. Love that top!You looks amazing:-)

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  44. i love everything about this post, your styling is great.

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  45. You look very beautiful! Love the outfit girl!


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  46. Beautifully written.
    xx
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  47. I love your look! So stylish!

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  48. This look is so perfect!!

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  49. Lovely write up, thanks for sharing this.
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  50. Great look. I really love those shades. What a fun statement piece.

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  51. Love this look, Great post! x.

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  52. oh my dear you are so pretty ♥ i loved the blue skirt ♥
    and yes, theearly 20's are hard but, everything is more clear now that i have 26 ♥

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  55. oh I agree with you so much!
    you just need to do you and not care about anyone! if you are happy with yourself everything will fall into place :D

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  56. Totally agree with your reflexion! You look so gorgeous darling

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  57. la falda es preciosa cielo me encanta!
    Muchas gracias por tu comentario en mi blog, te espero por mi nuevo post, mil besos!
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