Hello Lovelies, how are we all doing, been a
minute. I know I’ve been quiet here on the blog, I wouldn’t say absent because
I still check up on other blogs and read comments on here. Reason I’ve been
quiet, well I’m in a different environment and prior to moving accidentally my
laptop had some fault beyond repair 😢 So,
posting content is a lot more stressful right now and I’m just trying to wing
it until I’m blessed with a new laptop. That being said there would be only one
post every week for the main time. I don’t want to type much on this post but
I’d keep updating as I post. Anyway, lets dive into today’s post, but before we
do that, how do you love my new look ?
Today’s post is about my philosophy to having
a happy life, especially us in our early to late twenties, being an adult is
just tasking. The pressure to be independent, married, get that job, bills
associated with living (rent, electricity etc) Also, at this age frame we go
through a lot privately or publicly, whether is going through pain, loss,
misfortune or adversity, and there’s something about going through
something that doesn’t seem fair to you, that once you go through them you need
to make sense of it since you can’t change what happened and you can’t alter
what you’ve been through. Life can get frustrating and get to you if you allow
it to. Sometimes things don’t go as planned; you are met with disappointments,
failures, setbacks and delays. Its life, but how can you overcome it and choose
happiness over it all, keep reading, down below is my philosophy for a happy
life.
Talk
to you in my next post, be you, be safe, be kind, stay blessed and remain
humble..
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MY
PHILOSOPHY FOR A HAPPY LIFE
1.
First admit what it is that you are feeling to yourself and/or someone you care
about and also in return cares about you, voicing out what it is gives you
power over it.
2.
In order to facilitate the process to feeling better, do what will bring you
peace, writing, crying, finding humor in the situation, whatever is safe
and healthy that brings you ease.
3.
Destroy the thought of comparison, you don’t have to be at the same level
everyone else is at, you are at the pace and position you are at in this life
because you are meant to be there. You should never let what is around you make
you feel less of the person you are becoming.
4.
Anything that has happened in the past or present beyond your control just let
it go, trust me there’s so much peace in moving forward. Letting things go
frees you up so you can move forward.
5.
Never do people how they do you, it can block your blessings, just hand them
over to God and focus on yourself.
6.
This right here is really imperative, especially to my young ladies, do not
make the mistake of being dependent on anyone, work harder to give yourself
what it is you desire in this life no matter how slow the process might be ,
just keep pushing and don’t forget to put God first.
7.
Whatever good you do for anyone never expect anything in return because
sometimes nothing is what they can offer. Expectations lead to
disappointments.
8. Try your best to shift yourself
from negativity, once you start getting negative thoughts into you it can
destroy you physically, emotionally and mentally.
9. Realize what is meant for you
will not pass you by as long as you keep putting the work, so whatever set
back, rejection or disappointment (job, relationship, opportunity and so on)
you’ve been met with wasn’t just for you.
10.
Don’t take life too seriously, live in the moment, find humor in awkward
situations, be thankful for the little things, love more when it is being
reciprocated.
11.
Never speak bad about yourself, because only you on earth have the power
over your well being.
12. Recognize when a job, phase,
life stage or relationship is over and let it go. Allow yourself to gracefully
exit situations you’ve outgrown.
13. Forgive yourself for accepting
less than you deserve, but don’t do it again.
Just have this at the back of your
head, that God will not allow a trial to come into your life unless he has a
purpose. He doesn’t just allow the storm, he uses them, and also realize that
God knows your strengths and weaknesses. So whatever you are going through he
trust you can handle it. I hope this post help someone out there.
Thanks for reading, I Don’t
even know what the next post might be about, but like I mentioned earlier
I’m just winging it.
Do enjoy the rest of your
week
QOTD "Be kind to yourself."
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Everyone has his '' must '' to be happy (I would like to travel for more, for example) but many of your points are shareable :)
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Love this post, so much great advice here that I need to reread every week haha. My sister always says grow through what you go through. Change is painful but necessary most of the time. My Dad also taught me not to depend anyone and I think that is such an important point! Love the message in your post, also you look phenomenal! Beautiful photos xxx
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