TSF SPEAKS || 5 QUOTES TO HELP BUILD YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE

 Self-confidence as commonly used is self-assurance in one's personal judgment, ability, power, etc. One increases self-confidence from experiences of having mastered particular activities. It is a positive belief that in the future one can generally accomplish what one wishes to do. Self-confidence is not the same as self-esteem, which is an evaluation of one’s own worth, whereas self-confidence is more specifically trust in one’s ability to achieve some goal, which one meta-analysis suggested is similar to generalization of self-efficacy. Source here
It’s no news society and social media or even the people around us can tame our self-confidence which affects our behavior, and attitude. Down below are 5 important quotes to help you build up your self-confidence.

BE UNAPOLOGETICALLY YOU!
Be you, do you, express yourself and feel good about yourself, don’t go looking for a successful personality to duplicate. We aren’t born to be the same, imagine living in a world where there’s no diversity in behavior, character, and attitude. Remember nobody's perfect not even celebrities, people in power and people we look up to. To be honest we are all still trying to figure out our self, so be at peace knowing that the closest thing to perfection is constant growth. Keep growing and working on you. Practice what your conscience tells you is right, that way no one can use anything against you. Don’t give listening ears to what other people have to say about you because it’s not going to matter in your life. The only assuring thing is what you think and say about you.  Don't be scared to be weird, different, who knows you are hiding what someone might find intriguing, so be you regardless of what people might say or think which brings me to my next point.

ARE YOU KIND TO YOU? SPEAK POSITIVE THINGS TO YOURSELF.                  Small thinking about unimportant things can hold you back and threaten your self-confidence e.g. comparing yourself to people in general, their achievements and  so. Understand we are not meant to be on the same pace in life. Sometimes it can be quite depressing knowing you are putting the same effort as the other person but still yet, they get there before you. There's nothing you can do but to be okay with it, knowing when you eventually get there the experience will be better. Make an effort to put positive thoughts in your memory bank. Don’t let negative, self-deprecatory thoughts grow in you. We aren’t created to be average, we were created to do exploits and excel. So don’t wait for anyone to clap for you, encourage, compliment you, and support you. Look in the mirror and be that person who encourages you, claps for you, supports you and listens to you. The power of life and death is in the tongue so every morning when you wake up say nice things to you, when you keep up with this, slowly but surely your self confidence will begin to build up.

 ELIMINATE FEAR. ISOLATE AND PIN IT DOWN.
Fear of what others might think about you- make sure that what you plan to do is right, then do it. No one ever does anything worthwhile for which he is not criticized.
Fear of Failure - Show me a successful person who never failed.
Fear of embarrassment - It’s bound to happen; laugh about it and turn it into a funny story..
Fear of Loss - There’s always a reason for everything, accept it and have it at the back of your head there's more to come, better than the one you lost.
Fear of starting a conversation, confrontation, doing a presentation in class and so on.
Analyze all factors of fear,: make a list of your fears isolate it and then take constructive action. Challenge yourself to face it. Doing nothing about a situation strengthens fear and destroys self-confidence.



LET GO OF THE PAST AND OR WHAT ISN’T WORKING RIGHT
Sometimes lack of self-confidence can be traced directly to our past or what isn’t working right at the moment. Let the past be the past, you cannot change whatever happened. The mistake we make is carrying the past along with us, therefore depreciating our self-esteem and confidence. Don't be the victim and focus on the present, the now and here. Drop all those baggage, forgive them and yourself.  It shouldn’t define who you are or even how you relate with people. Now with things not working right in our life right now, I always say if you can’t control it take it to God and focus on what’s going well in your life. I believe no one has it worse. So be grateful for the little things it may not be much but it's something.


PHYSICAL APPEARANCE! WHEN YOU LOOK GOOD, YOU FEEL GOOD.
There’s this old saying that goes thus: When you look good you feel good. So improve your appearance, it wouldn’t hurt to get your hair looking decent, your clothes looking sharp. You don’t need an extravagant budget to make it all work. It’s not what you wear but how you wear it. So make what you have work for you and wear it with confidence. In addition to that, you are not fully dressed without a big smile on your face, don’t fake it just exude it. Make everything about you say ‘I’m confident’ the way you walk, speak up and make eye contact with people. If you don’t like your features you have to start liking them, accept your flaws because we are all made in His image and God doesn’t make mistakes. Embrace your imperfection and the world will. It starts with you.



FINAL WORD!
Self-confidence is Key to a better life, opportunities, better relationships with people and unlocking your unlimited potentials. It’s the most attractive quality anyone can have. If you don’t see how great you are, how can anyone see it?

QOTD ‘Self-Confidence is the best outfit, rock it and own it’’

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  1. Very nice. I like this post. :)

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  2. Great quotes, thanks for sharing Bernie!
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  3. This is such an awesome post! Have a great new week. :)
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  4. Great post!!
    I could understand how to get confidence!
    Thank you, Bernie!!

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  5. Fantastic quotes and super inspiring! Thanks for sharing these! =)

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  6. Thank you for sharing the inspirational quotes, Dear! Your selection quotes are really great.
    What's more, you look amazing on the photo, like always.

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  7. Thanks a lot :D

    amazing tips my dear :D
    OMG I really love your shirt :D

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  8. Amazing quotes & I love your style x Especially the sunnies x MS

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  9. Great blog post, thanks for sharing :)

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  10. I love reading posts like this one! Positive vibes on a Monday morning! :)
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  11. I love the positivity and motivation you are sharing in this post. You are spot on!

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  12. Super gorgeous dear!
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  13. love your style! thos sunglasses are amazing

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  14. Great w style darling~
    I love it the sunglasses
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  15. Wow! Colorful, trendy, feminine - just perfect for the spring!

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  16. Loved the outfit, and you look gorgeous
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  17. Amazing quotes! Super post dear! :)
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  18. Very helpful post! I will keep these in mind :)

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  19. Excellent post!
    This is so inspiring, a perfect reading on a Monday morning!
    Thank you so much for your lovely words, really boost my confidence :D
    Wish you a lovely Monday
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  20. Such nice tips !
    Thanks to share.
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  21. Very inspiring article! Big thanks :)

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  22. These are all such wonderful things to remember. ANd I love this photo of you!

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  24. I love this so much! Such a great reminder!

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  25. This post is so perfect for a Monday! Thanks for sharing such strong words of wisdom. Absolutely agree with being "unapologetically you"!

    Best,
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  26. great quotes! so inspiring :D

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  28. Nice quotes, thanks for sharing!

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  29. Soo motivating!!!!

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  30. Really liked the post and your tips!

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  31. Wonderful post, love it! ♥
    Maybe follow for follow? :)

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  32. amazing look!
    Follow for follow? please let me know in my blog <3
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  33. These are all such great quotes and inspiration, girl! I couldn't agree more with all of them and I must admit, I don't always remember to do these things, so these reminders do help :) I love your outfit by the way, that hat and sunnies look so good on you! Thanks for sharing and I hope you're having a great start to your week so far!

    XO,

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  34. Love all these quotes! So good.

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  35. loving this post so much bernie!!! loved every bit of it
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  36. Thanks a lot :D

    I really need your sunnies in my life :P

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  37. Great post. I love the tip...very helpful and morale building

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  38. I´m not a very confident person but I´m trying to change! This post definitely helps dear! Love your confident style pic! xx
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  39. I have problems sometimes with first one.
    I'm cool with the rest, finally. :)


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  40. Wow darling what a touching words, it really make myself think about it! Thank you!

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  41. Thank you for sharing this really motivating post!

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  42. You are absolutely right about self-confidence. Great tips.

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  44. You look fabulous as always! Btw great post:)
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  45. Thank you for this beautiful words and this very inspiring words.
    You are so right, we just need to keep in mind.
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  46. I gotta agree with you, when you look good you feel good. Can be smallest thing to improve my appearance and I personally feel more confident x

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    1. Exactly dear, that small act can definitely help build self confidence.

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  47. Being kind to ourselves is my fave, because sometimes we forget to love ourselves and it's so important. Also, love when you look good you feel good, agree 100% .

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    1. Exactly!! Sometimes we forget us while trying to help and be kind to others which is wrong. Thanks for stopping by dear.

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  48. I think one of my favorite quotes is the first- "be unapologetically you". I used to struggle with this a lot and cared too much of what others thought of me but have learned that you can't please everyone. Takes some time to understand that and let "people pleasing" go.

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    1. Being in Uni Made me realise you just can't please everybody, it drains the life out of you. Plus caring what other people think or thought about you is depressing we need let it go and be unapologetically you. Thanks for stopping by dear.

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  50. Love these quotes! thanks for sharing ;)

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  51. These are great tips! I love your style here so much :)
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  52. you look amazing! and I totally agree with all your tips!

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  53. Thanks a lot :D

    you look so fenomenal :D <3

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  54. фото супер! ))

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  55. wow sooo amazing outfit! <3

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  56. Amazing look <3
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  57. Yes, yes and yes! I couldn't agree more and it's nice to be reminded ;)

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  58. I like the positive message you are sharing, I guess this is what we need first to achieve our dreams and I like the last tip the most :) And look at you, your white jumpsuit is so nice, I love how you paired it with yellow striped shirt.

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  59. You look so cool!

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  60. love the quotes! it's very touching and inspiring
    thanks for sharing this
    have a great day
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  61. this post is so helpfull and important,
    so many Young Girls and of Course Boys don't have enough confidence
    but it's so important to become who you are, grow and at the end be who you are.
    lovely post and amazing quotes.

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  62. It's very to say "be you" or "just be yourself" but it's way easier said than done sometimes.

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  63. It took me a good while to build up my self esteem, so I know how rocky of a road that can be. Thanks for the tips, they will surely help less confident people out there, I choose to believe so. <3

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  64. I love the positivity and good vibes you are spreading! It's brilliant! :) x

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  65. Wow! Stylish and cool outfit!
    Great tips!
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  66. What a beautiful article and boost for any woman!! Thanks for sharing! Xx Susanne - http://bagatyou.com

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  67. dope outfit!

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  68. Good thoughts Benita! So interesting post!!! Kisses from Italy and thank you for your visit,
    Eni

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  70. lovely post and awesome pics dear!
    have a nice day!

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  71. These are really great quotes to help build your self confidence. Thanks for sharing hun!

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  72. First of all this look is fierce and FAB!!! I love the quotes you shared, and I honestly need to work on speaking positive things to myself. Sometimes I can be so hard on myself, but I need to turn my negative thoughts into positivity.

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  73. Such a great post, babe! Thanks for sharing!

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  74. I always enjoy reading inspirational posts. :) I couldn't agree more that being unapologetically you is something I had to really learn to do since I was always a pretty shy person.

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  75. great :)

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  76. Good morning, I love your blog, it is really very interesting. I'll wait. I just published an article on the beauty of our hair, I'll wait.
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  77. love this post :)

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  78. We need a little boost at times! Love it!
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  79. I have been off socialmedia and blogging for a while now and i sure did miss a lot. That picture at the top is my favourite picture of you. i so love it and the post is positive. Welldone dear.

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  80. Wow you look so cool <3 I will follow you till the end

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  81. Great post!
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  82. Such inspirational words, Bernie ♥ My favourite takeaway: the closest thing to perfection is constant growth. I try to live by this motto and I trust life will bring so many opportunities and good people my way because of that trusting effort. I believe we are here to excel indeed!

    Have a fabulous Easter break, dearest

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  83. I love this! Looking good and feeling good is so true and about being kind to yourself is what i forget sometimes because i set unrealistic high goals for myself and I kick myself if i don't meet them.

    i will get better, thanks for this post benita darling

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  84. Inspiring. I'm stealing some a these quotes.

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  87. Great pointers on self confidence...thanks for the much needed reminder. Love your look!

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  88. Great post! <3
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  89. I love that second quote and it's something I'm actively working on. I realised just how harsh I was speaking to myself and how harsh my inner thoughts were so I'm really trying to turn that around and start being kinder.

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  90. Such nice quotes, thank you for sharing!
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